Why International Love Is Cruel
Love can be tough, cruel. International love, on the other hand, is definitely cruel!
Why would I say that?
Well, to start with when an ordinary couple meet chances are equal that they may end up living in the same city or country, or at least that’s not decided yet. When two persons from different countries or cultures meet up, on the other hand, they have the absolute certainty that one of them, if not both, will have to leave their own country or city behind. Is not it cruel?
When two persons decide to stay together they hang out with their respective groups of friends. Friendships need to be nurtured and when someone leaves it becomes difficult to nurture a relationship. International couples know that when they leave or when they relocate they will have to make new friends. The sad thing is that this can be felt when friends do not want to come closer and affectionate because they know that you will leave soon. Is it not cruel?
Perhaps the most cruel thing of all is that it makes you be far away from your family. It might not seem so scary at the beginning, nor it is clear to see how profound and how grave such a decision can be. And it becomes heavier as time passes by, when you are not there for their birthday or for their anniversary. Is it not cruel?
International relationships force you to decide, to choose, to take a stand. When you come to a fork in the road, you cannot avoid taking a decision. It’s either your country or where you want to be, it is your present job or a new job in the country where your love is, it is either your friends or the new ones that you are going to make.
So, is it that bad? Yes, but there are pros also! When you are an international couple, you know what you gave up to be together, you did take a decision. You did not just follow the herd, or choose what the others did, but you made your mind and, against all odds, are showing them that you were right!
What is your experience? Was it all smooth for you? Leave us a comment!
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My boyfriend and I are a young couple I’m a 19 years old African lady and he is a 22 years old Spanish gentleman. We are both still students in our countries.
I met him is Spain when I was working there as an Au pair. During my stay in Spain he was my only friend, He would take me out sight seeing around his town Barcelona and take me to the best restaurants with amazing traditional Spanish food he would go all out just so I would have a great time in his city, of which I did, but my best part was simply being around him no matter what it is we did or where it is we went. I felt like I was living a fairy tale with this young gentlemen. days had come and gone and it was time for me to go back home to South Africa. This was the saddest part. He exported me to the Airport where we had our last meal together and a reminiscing session. he was of great help and support to me.
The saddest part had arrived when it was time for me to board. Deep down my heart was bursting in tears… knowing that I was about to leave behind the man I really care for and love. I could not stop looking into his beautiful eyes, hugging him and kissing him. it was just impossible… but as a man he had to do. We then took our last hugs and kisses and slowly I walked into the boarding area of the Airport and inside the boarding area I could still see him and all we did was smile at one another. Before I departed he called me to make sure I was safe and promised to keep in Touch of which he has been doing.
Deep down I knew this was not the last time seeing him so I promised him I would study hard and get a part time job where I would make a little more pocket money to save. Until today we still chat to one another, send each other some pictures and mails.
I have never been so determined and inspired to work hard and be a better person in my life.
Hi Lulu, a story which pretty much resembles how my wife and I met. The best part is that distance was what spurred us on and did everything we could to meet and to stay together.
Nothing is impossible!
Thanks very much for sharing your thoughts!