Love can be tough, cruel. International love, on the other hand, is definitely cruel!
Why would I say that?
Well, to start with when an ordinary couple meet chances are equal that they may end up living in the same city or country, or at least that’s not decided yet. When two persons from different countries or cultures meet up, on the other hand, they have the absolute certainty that one of them, if not both, will have to leave their own country or city behind. Is not it cruel?
When two persons decide to stay together they hang out with their respective groups of friends. Friendships need to be nurtured and when someone leaves it becomes difficult to nurture a relationship. International couples know that when they leave or when they relocate they will have to make new friends. The sad thing is that this can be felt when friends do not want to come closer and affectionate because they know that you will leave soon. Is it not cruel?
Perhaps the most cruel thing of all is that it makes you be far away from your family. It might not seem so scary at the beginning, nor it is clear to see how profound and how grave such a decision can be. And it becomes heavier as time passes by, when you are not there for their birthday or for their anniversary. Is it not cruel?
International relationships force you to decide, to choose, to take a stand. When you come to a fork in the road, you cannot avoid taking a decision. It’s either your country or where you want to be, it is your present job or a new job in the country where your love is, it is either your friends or the new ones that you are going to make.
So, is it that bad? Yes, but there are pros also! When you are an international couple, you know what you gave up to be together, you did take a decision. You did not just follow the herd, or choose what the others did, but you made your mind and, against all odds, are showing them that you were right!
What is your experience? Was it all smooth for you? Leave us a comment!