As much as it is a cliché, love is definitely the most powerful feeling of them all. It even makes people act foolishly urged by many impulses. The power of love can go as far as make people move to a different country in order to be with their beloved one. However, this is not just a simple decision; it is even way more serious than to decide where to go on holiday for what you are choosing here is the way you will spend your future. That is why you need to be wise and do some good consideration before buying that crucial one way ticket.
First off, make sure he/she is not the only thing you will be moving for. After all, as much as you love each other, your whole world need not revolve only around your significant other. As a matter of fact, if there will be no point for your being there besides living with your beloved one, you are destined to get bored out of your mind and even probably annoyed with each other. Your new home needs to make you feel comfortable. Do you notice the key word – ‘home’? A home away from home, the new place you will be living in has to be able to offer everything your former one used to, in terms of both work and entertainment. If you are daydreaming about just being in this dreamland, only the two of you, idle and carefree – forget about it. Wherever you go, reality will finally ‘smack’ you in the face. So, in order to be a true part of your new society, make the steps you are expected to. Learn the language, find new friends, establish useful connections, go around, see places, meet people and most importantly – find a job. This will make you feel independent. There’s a solution for everything else as long as you are together.
Next, be ready to start life anew. For your own sanity’s sake, you need to understand and admit that life in your old home will go on without you. Nobody’s saying that it will be easy. Quite the contrary. It will, without a doubt, be difficult for both you and your family members to get used to you being away. But that’s life. You’ve already made your decision in the name of something pure and beautiful, and it needs to be for good. Yes, there will be a grieving stage, but try not to prolong that period for too much. Always look at and emphasize on the positive rather than on the negative aspects.
Do not, under any circumstances, break the link. What this means is, never forget your past, your original homeland, your old friends, your family. Even though, in a way, you have started a new life, this is no reason to let the people who love you fall into oblivion. Today, it is relatively easy to keep in touch regardless of the distances. Be it via the telephone, Skype or e-mails, do keep in touch. After all, it is good to know that you will always have someone to go back to. Be it because of disillusionment or simply to visit.
Expect a culture shock! Most probably, you will experience one. And this is normal. New surroundings, new culture, most probably a new language as well, and so on. It would be a good idea to get at least a little bit informed about the country you are about to move to beforehand. Find out about their customs, traditions. This will make your adaptation way easier.
In a nutshell, whatever the reason for doing so, moving to a different country is a hard task. There will be plenty of obstacles but you shouldn’t despair. Along with your beloved one and the power of love, nothing will be able to stand in your way!
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